Pet Peeves…

I can’t stand when certain people reserve the right to make judgments and conclusions on things that go on in my life…on the premise of thinking that they know everything that I go through on a daily basis.

I hate when people I am talking to tell me to spill myself out to them, prior to interrupting me with their deduced summaries of whatever I would be in the middle of saying. Often, these conclusions include emotions that they expect/hope to see me portray, or things they wanted me to say. And to that, to those of you who know that you are guilty of this, I’ll tell you this…

The parts of my life that meet the public eye are not of things, people, or activities that I prioritize or value most. I’m not being overall cutesy or more adorable over people that you have decided are most important to me. I’m not being “girlish” because I resort to my biggest habits when I participate in informal conversation. I’m not the “heartless” creature that you make me seem on the premise that I don’t act or speak as favorably on things that may be a valued norm. 

If I had learned anything from my (almost) 17 years of interacting with people, it’s that there is no way to know about everything that goes on in someone else’s life. Unless you’re really paying attention, you won’t know if that person you call your “best friend” or your “sister” or your “twinnie” or your “brotha from anotha motha” or your “other half” or your “soul mate,” is the person that you have associated him or her with. And I really hope that those of you who can identify yourselves with what I had just said (which really should be all of the people that read this damn post) PLEASE take the measures necessary to stay conscious of what you really know, or don’t know, about someone else. Because I can almost guarantee to you that that the persona that you match to the individual closest to you does not resemble his/her character perfectly.

(Disclaimer: As much as I don’t want to admit, I too am guilty of this nasty habit. At least I’m conscious of it and reserve the right to doubt a lot of things that I have preconceived as true -_-) 

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I could say so much more on this …. but I got lazy…